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|I remember you saying once that if a guy cheated on you, it would be a deal-breaker. Explain to me how you could possibly condone Mako's actions.|
Oh, I’ve been waiting for this one.
I’m going to explain it by transposing the situation to different characters - instead of Mako, Korra, and Asami, let’s pretend it’s Dean, Sam, and Castiel from Supernatural.
For the sake of this explanation, let’s say Dean and Castiel are in a relationship. They care for each other, they’re supportive of each other, they nuzzle noses after Dean
wins a pro-bending matchkills a monster. Sam is totally okay with it, even though he does get possessive-sibling feelings. He’s just happy that Dean’s happy, and he knows that Cas needs someone, too, now that he’s cut off from Heaven.
One day, Sam goes missing. No one knows where he is, but eventually, Dean figures out that he’s been captured by a vicious, bloodthirsty demon who’s hellbent (pardon the pun) on revenge. This demon is on the same level as Alistair, the demon who tortured Dean while he was in Hell. Dean knows how dangerous this demon is, and how much he could make Sam suffer.
Instantly, Dean is terrified for his brother, and he goes into full-out panic mode. Sam is all he can think about. He stops at nothing until they locate Sam - and yes, during this time, he sort of forgets to pay much attention to Cas, because he goes into tunnel vision and everything is Sam Sam Sam. It’s not because he doesn’t care about Cas - but Cas is safe, Cas is with him. Sam is currently being held captive by a monster who could very well kill him. Obviously, Sam takes priority.
When they finally find Sam, Dean doesn’t leave his side, if only because he needs to reassure himself that Sam is okay. Again, it’s not because he’s ignoring or neglecting Cas - it’s just that Sam is one of the most important people in his life (if not the most important), and Sam nearly died, and Sam is traumatized and hurt and needs someone there for him right now.
Voila. Does that make sense?
Obviously, there’s some differences, and the explanation could continue further if we throw Wincest into the equation.
Immediate argument: “But Mako kissed Korra while he was dating Asami! Isn’t that cheating?!”
Yes. He made a mistake. But what a lot of people are forgetting is that Korra initiated the kiss with the full knowledge that this would cause Mako to betray Asami in some way (and yet, she’s not getting any hate for that because Korria is flawless). Is he at fault for kissing her back? Yeah, that wasn’t cool - but if he had shoved her away, that would have potentially destroyed their friendship, and he likely couldn’t bear the thought of losing Korra as a friend.
So Mako’s made mistakes. The kiss was one of them, and not telling Asami about it was another. Most of that chalks up to him just wanting everyone to be happy, and him trying to do his best to make sure everything is okay and all of his friends are safe and he’s not going to lose anyone else because he’s already lost so, so many people in his life.
He’s just trying to please everyone, and yeah, that ultimately leads to people getting hurt. But when it comes to “cheating,” there’s two ways it can happen:
#1. “Hey, listen. My best friend kissed me, and I was afraid to push her away because I didn’t want to hurt her. But I’ve told her I’m with you, you’re my girlfriend. She understands that now. Are we okay?” [Alternatively: “I didn’t tell you about it because I didn’t want you to get hurt, either. I know I should have told you sooner.”]
#2. “I’ve been hooking up with my best friend behind your back without any regards to your feelings! Hooray for dehumanization and treating women like sexual possessions!”
It should be very, very clear which position Mako is coming from. And if you can’t realize that, then frankly, you’re not analyzing his character correctly.